Sunday, September 20, 2015

Find your Zen





Do we ever really take time to slow down? “Indian summer” is in the air and I wonder how it’s possible that summer’s over.

My summer was BUSY! I feel like I didn’t stop for a second. As I continued to work and my teenage children were home for most of the summer, I wore many hats: “camp director”, “activity and social coordinator”, “chauffeur”, “cook”, “laundress” and “maintenance worker”. Don’t get me wrong, it was a fantastic summer filled with lots of fun activities (beach, biking, tennis, golf, boating, bbqs) with family and friends and great weather. And I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. That being said, as I look back on the months passed, I feel like I didn’t breathe much. I was always on the go racing from one fun filled activity to another. And so, a week ago when my kids went back to school I thought that early to bed and early to rise would finally allow me to slow down and have a holiday!

Well, that fantasy hasn’t panned out! I was in my apartment elevator this morning with another mother who had just sent her son off to school. She said that she was more exhausted than she thought she would be as her life was busy once again with the hustle and bustle of school and work and family and friends.

The fall season is loaded with commitments- there’s even more rush and activity than I imagined!

However, it’s time to learn to push pause and slow down and breathe. I recognize that in life there will always be chaos. But the key is to be able to find “zen” as we move. If we can manage that (and hey we are great at multi-tasking!) while we can’t mess with mother nature (too much), I believe that we will actually slow down the aging process and we will look and feel a whole lot better!

Here are 3 steps towards finding inner peace and balance.
#1) Close your eyes and count to 10
It’s simple, really: Anytime you want, you can stop and close your eyes shut and turn your gaze inward and count to 10.
This works for little kids so why not for ourselves as well. When faced with a stressful moment, stop and count. Now, find your breath. Don’t move so fast that you take it for granted. Notice it. Pull a big inhale in through your nose, filling up your belly from the bottom of you all the way up to the top of you. Say to yourself let. Then exhale the breath out your nose from top to bottom, saying to yourself go. By breathing like this throughout the day you will increase your focus, slow your heart rate and feel balance and grounding.
#2) Laugh
Believe it or not when we are relaxed we are happy. And when we are happy, we laugh! Laughing is good medicine; happiness is the place where Zen lives.
#3) Be an early bird
The morning hours are the quietest, and finding some “you time” can set the tone for your entire day. Use this time to journal, meditate, or work out.

Think. Say. Do. Every action is first a thought. Every thought has an intention. Set a clear and positive intention to find your time and your own space in your everyday life. Think it, say it, and do it. You won’t be sorry.